Hi, and welcome back.
It's been a minute since I was last on here, well, more specifically since I was last on the blog. (I've been working on a little SUPER SECRET CYBERWHATEVER...PROJECT!) I want to talk a little bit about the now deleted post about coming out at work. In that post I said somethings that I now have issue with and we'll talk about them and maybe you can extrapolate some advice from that.
Before we dive into that though let me tell you where I was then and where I am now.
When I was writing How to Come Out at Work I had the intention of creating a comprehensive guide to coming out at work. I wanted to create a resource for trans people to have so that they could live their lives and feel less miserable. All wrapped in this success story of my own transition for the ladies, gentlemen and NBs out there. This was really lofty and it really made it sound like I was trying to be some kind of hero, when really...well...I'm just one lady, I can't really do much other than talk to people and show them how trans people really are. Not whatever preconceived bullshit they had assumed prior.
So that was then, maybe...2 months ago? I learned something in that time. I learned that maybe things aren't so bad as long as you have people in your life. More specifically, people who understand and are there for you was something I had forgotten I ever had before. It's...really nice. Coming Out at Work isn't really that difficult, you just need to be prepared for the worst and dive in headfirst. You'll be surprised at how many people are cool with it.
Now, will some people still call you mean things? Of course. That's just par for the course since there are loads of people who've never had one conversation with someone they'd so quickly call a "faggot" in their lives. They're just...well, wrong and aren't really worth talking to. If you have to talk to them, well...yeah. It's not fun.
Anyways, let me not make myself sad here. in the original post (which can be read in it's entirety if you type "HTCOAW" all caps in where "howtobehappy" is on this url.) I realy made it sound like it was possible for someone living in a hellish unsafe place to just move. It's not. I don't have that luxury, very few people have that. I think it'd be more accurate to say...live no matter what. Fuck the bastards, and you're gonna outlive them. They will be on their deathbeds and you will still be pretty and thriving.
And that's about all the advice I can give really. I mean, outside of providing some resources. Like, idk use a safety razor (i use a van der hagen) for shaving to save money, buy foundation and concealers to cover facial hair, see what your states laws are for getting your gender marker changed on your driver's license...and...keep going! I'm sure you're doing great and i'm sure you look great today, too.
-Sabrina (Sabrinawins3@gmail.com)